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Blog Article: Shame vs. BDSM Fetishism?

- Hated Fetishist -

Are feelings of shame and disgust triggers for Prejudices and resentments towards fetishism?

Each of us carries it within us, each of us have accompanied them for a long time - what is meant are feelings of shame and disgust that already form in the early childhood development of a person. This The process of formation takes place through the upbringing and past life of the reference persons. A toddler carelessly grabs a spider and enjoys the fast crawling or the unusual appearance. Usually up to the point when a trusted person has one for the first time let out a scream and drive away the spider in a rush and panic. The Child observes the appropriate behavior and draws his conclusions from it. Unrest and fear can mean danger, too the excitement of the adult is also a confirmation for the child - Die Spider can only be something bad. The life lessons learned are abstracted to the child. This assumes this in most Cases unfiltered and from now on will presumably also include a rejection encounter spider. The lightness and above all the inexperience in the Dealing with facts dwindles more and more with increasing age.

This mechanism of human learning is us innate and ingrained in our genetic makeup. in itself is this learning process is necessary for survival and can also be found in animals. In this way, the young learn which other animals are dangerous or otherwise Threat lurks and how it can survive. Basically that's how it is in humans. A child is warned of heights not to fall; before Fire, so as not to burn yourself and above all else, for your good to ensure.

Shame is learned

Little by little, the child learns to be in the world to find their way around and is becoming increasingly autonomous. The role model behavior that it can attend, simply gives the child orientation. Only from For about five years, the teaching of developmental psychology has assumed that that a child is able to independently assess dangers and to respond appropriately. By then, a large part of the Formation of the feelings of shame and disgust and were created in the brain. So some phobias have their roots in early childhood.

A feeling of disgust is also a recognized one Protective mechanism of the body and often guide of instincts. Also outside of upbringing and cultivation it is present in order to disease and to prevent bodily harm. Hence, among other things, the Nausea on spoiled food. One comes to our sensory receptors important role in the recognition and categorization of what is us good for us and what could harm us. In this respect, the sensory impressions of a person is closely intertwined with their feelings of disgust and shame.

A similar situation arises when dealing with personal hygiene and dirt. Also the awareness of your own Nudity forms at this early stage of child development out of. The perception of people in the social and cultural environment and how they deal with their naked bodies, whether it is natural goes along with it or something indecent is very important for that. It is also reflected in the intake of meals or during stays in of nature, such as dirt from leftover food or mud and Dirt is handled while playing.

Can the child get dirty or is it forbidden?

How do the confidants react to the smeared cheeks and the muddy knees? Based on these reactions, this is gradually formed very own image in dealing with cleanliness and the associated values.

"With you look much prettier with a clean face!”

"Dirty Only uncouth children have clothes!”

"If you don't get dirty, you're already a big kid!"

Such succinct statements go very deep and are touching in our subconscious and usually anchor themselves there for the whole more lives. These roots shape our entire value system and usually also have a significant impact on how we ourselves as parents act and what principles we pass on to our children. Primarily without reflection, these sentences shape our later behavior in life adulthood.

Handling these experiences and imprints from our childhood and youth is of great importance and apparently forms one Symbiosis with responsibility and mindfulness in practice in the area of Fetishism and forms of sexual play such as BDSM.

What in fetishism and submission through Game variants or humiliation techniques are often suggested for a long time and forms an important basis for the discussion aftercare. The effect of initiating this deep psychological Layers in a person's character is usually very strong and the Impact of which sometimes not immediate. Almost similar to Tunnel games can be experiences of degradation or confrontation with Disgust and shame follow and only show up days or weeks later. Do not ignore this dynamic and keep in mind the bond and not to disturb, interrupt or even close contact with Sub lose, stands out as an elementary core in togetherness. From therefore, a well-established basis of trust would protect against games involving shame and Feelings of disgust are a good, if not a recommendable, starting point represent. This form of attention plays into the cards, itself Possibility to know well in advance and also a lively communication seek. Here, too, applies that the leading part with all its efforts cannot read minds, even if he has known the part to be led for a long time.

The submissive people would be advised not to to embarrass and to give feedback about one's own feelings, so that the Points are set well from the start and nothing goes wrong runs. Does the leading part deem it reasonable to over the named Pushing boundaries can have its own allure, yes this challenge should be very closely linked to the one to be led involved. Such intense moments can break your connection in raise a new level, but also a lot of beautiful things between you destroy. Trust once broken is hard to mend; this would be one good idea that is certainly worth taking to heart.

The fetish game plays a special role here body fluids.

Playing with them can be special and exciting, because as a indecently valid ways are sought with it and that sometimes makes the allure of it. Body fluids are almost always available and a great gift of nature. Since these in themselves often waste products of our body is a natural fear of it have absolutely understandable and even biologically predetermined. In this Connection would like to be reminded again that body secretions Diseases can transmit and therefore such a practice only can be practiced in the complete health of all involved. Also a Urinary tract infection or a fungal infection should be mutual respect not to be concealed.

BDSM party with shame

Within the spectrum of diversity Feces, also known as caviar, can contain bodily fluids play an exceptional role. Probably many of us already have once played with his own excrement as a baby. The consistency and the smell as well as the tactile perception and last but not least the horrified outcry of the caregiver when noticing ensure that a toddler may find this very exhilarating. In adults it can Approaching and guiding in this very intimate area many different reactions cause – mind you, in both partners. Not just the one with feces comes into active contact, but also the part that handles it observed and is part of or gives the caviar is from Playing feces does not remain unaffected. It seems advisable to get in front of the to inform about dealing with feces and other bodily excretions, how these are physically, for example, in the air or in connection behave with (body) warmth. Also checking possible physical Effects and side effects in interaction with materials such as latex or leather can prove very useful and helpful.

With other degradation products of the body such as The urine, also called pee, is basically the same not otherwise. Sub might happily acquiesce in it, in the mouth to get peed, but meanwhile doesn't want her precious one Leather collar got soaked with it. Likewise promises Some experiment with blood or menstrual blood include surprise. Dyed sheets are probably less of a reason to joy, because the protein it contains can only be absorbed with a lot Wash out and remove completely at high temperatures. So take it maybe before that the valuable satin sheets from the bed and cover them instead, prefer to use a specially made pad, for example Example of a lacquer bed sheet.

In addition to the organizational preparations, this is joint discussion before all activities is enormously important. The one to lead Part by "ambushing", suddenly spitting in his face or to also confront the directing part with the wish that it should be Doing big or small business on Sub's body can both Prepare dismayed moments for parties. The unforeseen can be very be exciting. In the field of fetish playing with bodily fluids However, a certain caution in the procedure would probably be more of an advantage and advisable, because these practices almost always affect hidden shame and feelings of disgust.

At this point it should also be mentioned that, of course, the dominant part can always refuse practices that make his disgusting and transcend shame.

He is not obliged to do so or in principle agree to everything Sub wants from him. This appearing expectations that are sometimes found in people's minds, can put the dominant part under pressure. Only if himself both are completely in agreement and conform to each other, can wonderful common horizons and bonds grow.

Another area that comes into play is the multifaceted world of lovers and fetishists of olfactory stimuli. This terminology means that the sensual Perceptions of the sense of smell are the focus. What about that one can trigger absolute disgust in people, can in turn cause others to lead to unexpected delights. The meaning of the word "stink" is mostly subjective in its interpretation. Worn clothes, dirty shoes, secretions of the body and their odor development outside the body, Games with food - the colorful unity of the fetish lives from its individuality and tolerance. Not everyone has every fetish great find, but live and let live should be the top priority in togetherness be inside and outside the community.

Kinky BDSM and Fetishism

A fetish tends to develop in adolescence, However, it can also only occur in adulthood or as early as childhood develop. During this period of adolescence, sexual thinking is formed and form orientations, strengthened by experiences and Adventures. The real awareness of an internalized fetish often takes place only in adulthood, in which this then to moments of happiness, but can also lead to major conflicts of conscience. Many Individuals suffer under the pressure of social conventions and If they fear social exclusion, they would make their inclination public transport. This concern is quite understandable, because not everyone To date, fetishism has been socially accepted. A person who likes to slip into the role of an adult baby, can be more contempt sloshing towards a person who adores high heels. At This phenomenon can also be found in fetish fabrics. A man who who likes to wear latex clothes is smiled at more than a dominatrix in a wet look catsuit. In thinking there should be no classification of chic and hip fetishes and frowned upon and ostracized give. Each is fully entitled to something for yourself personally as well or as bad to evaluate, but the exercise of respect and tolerance in relation on someone else's legal fetish is one of the attributes of humanity and would be wonderful, this attitude would be cultivated become of each of us. Especially in the BDSM scene, where sometimes frightening intolerance among themselves prevails.

Now, delivering in terms of optical or olfactory stimuli an attractive component of humiliation units be when subs smell their sweaty feet or their own or looking at and perhaps touching the necessities that have been given. Depending on individual predisposition, however, it can also be pleasant and be arousing, with their excrement or their own body odor experiment.

Personal contact is also often associated with feelings of shame with nudity.

There are many interpretations of this, but let's just say it Strolling through the supermarket completely naked would probably do any of us affect in any way. Once apart from the fact that this is punishable would be, because we prefer not to cause a public nuisance. It does not show good style for forcing one's sexuality on bystanders, Not to mention that minors also unexpectedly become witnesses could. It is better to avoid this scenario. sessions with the Nudity related to the public put a whole special sensitivity of the dominant part and a very prudent thinking ahead in execution.

The illusion applies to the part to be guided imply if he's on a concrete pillar near a for example Street is fixed without clothing, but it can be assumed that that motorists don't really see them because of the speed. Also walks with petplaying in the forest finds its country lanes, that do not belong to the hotspot but play with the insecurity, it a cyclist or hiker could spontaneously come around the bend in the path. All these situations have a core idea: being naked in the Publicity seems to be something forbidden or a breach of taboo. One Whole array of fetishes avail themselves of this wicked act in order to to nurture exhibitionism.

BDSM Public and Shame

Independent of the public can be very simple moments cause fetish sites and/or BDSMlers to to be ashamed of. The supposed self-evidence of Spreading your legs, for example, or gagging during an intense deepthroat. Even if careless flatulence makes itself heard or suddenly has to be pushed open, this can also be done in a lead to blushing in the early stages of being together, mind you on both sides. A lack of erection due to overwhelming emotions or a physical feature that is perceived as a blemish, such as a scar often cause feelings of shame due to the high embarrassing factor are often kept secret. Just these fine ones It is important to recognize nuances in cooperation and, above all, to be open and easy to talk to. To simply laugh at such normal occurrences, can be very relaxing and decongesting.

The self-image of the respective person is very much the focus.

Women sometimes tend to have a crazy one Self-perception and find various parts of the body unfavorable in themselves texture and shape. But it's not just them. The perfect Body is almost assumed these days, at least that's what it is Opinion that is anchored in many minds. Honestly, who can already answer the question of what is considered perfect and, above all, who wants it already perfection? Perfection usually also means that something is finished is and can no longer develop. How boring is that? Yes, please?

Feelings of shame and disgust can be accompanied by taboos, but don't have to. Taboos can form and form from these, yes this process does not necessarily go hand in hand. The However, probability is very close that there is a connection between feelings of shame and disgust and taboos. Therefore plays in Fetishism, dealing with taboos and breaking taboos also play a major role.

The maledom and the latex slave with his shame

Juggling with the forbidden, breaking taboos, supposedly gross and power imbalance is at the heart of Humiliation and can therefore cause these kinds of feelings in the submissive part touch. Commanding disgusting things can be popular such as eating food lying on the floor or that kissing shoes. The confrontation with feelings of disgust conveys that Commanding feeling of power and lifts an existing gap sometimes more sometimes less desired. The submissive part takes place of humiliation, because the dominant part wants it that way and applies it. Of course, this humiliation is desired and wanted by both sides and gives to both participants as well as to everyone in group constellations people pleasure and satisfaction. Any non-consensual Degradation would be a criminal offense and an absolute no go.

How can these actions lead to ecstasy?

Like a fetish, it can involve pubic and Feelings of disgust also behave. Their owners can put them in emotional distress move and let those self-criticize themselves.

On the other hand, scientific studies show that Living through and overcoming a shameful situation and exercising a disgusting action in the body an adrenaline rush and others Trigger substances that, from a neurobiological point of view, send us into a kind of euphoria offset. The blood pulsates faster stimulated by the hormone cocktail through the veins. The entire body suddenly becomes excited and tension shifted. This practice of breaking taboos and defeating Feelings of shame can lead to intense satisfaction and immense insight to lead.

Have you ever wallowed like a pig in the dirt? Or yours Stool voided during anal penetration? Or your warm urine felt running down your thighs after a full bladder?

Playing with feelings of shame and disgust can be yours A wealth of experience with wonderful and very stimulating sensory experiences enrich. Also to consciously control the inner bodily functions and to feel and the alternation of tension and relaxation can be felt as turn out to be very exciting if you want to fully immerse yourself in it and can How about a soothing enema with warm water? This is very important in such sexual practices Inform about health risks to prevent accidents. none would like to be present or cause alcohol poisoning, because sparkling wine was used instead of water for an enema. intestinal walls absorb fabrics, don't forget! Also internal burns from too hot enemas are to be avoided at all costs. But back to the main topic.

Have you ever been under the gaze of spectators? Requested to relieve yourself? Have you been once given embarrassing orders or was a (public) Displaying your nudity part of the session?

These approaches become psychological immersed in the deepest levels of consciousness. Both when submissive Part, as well as the dominant juggling with pubic and Feelings of disgust, the associated taboos and the initiated border crossings lead to significant and supporting findings and insights. And thereby to complete satisfaction through grounding with oneself.

In addition to the bare and often perceived as beautiful sensual experience, confronting one's own fears, Uncertainties and imposed taboos imply an enormous attraction. Itself to deal with oneself and to follow a path, which one unknown and often feared; from these alone This path can be seen as both fulfilling and instructive be perceived, regardless of an outcome assessed as positive. How it can be gratifying when the dominant part is the system and Registered willingness to break new ground with his submissive part and wants to give him the happiness of self-awareness, implements his seeing. On the one hand, humiliation sessions can turn into physical stimulation won, on the other hand, there is a very strong mental value in it hidden.

Soft bondage and BDSM extreme with shame

These fetish play moments can be a bit of a gamble represent and presuppose absolutely solid, mutual trust. Maybe such ways of playing are not suitable as games for the Getting to know each other, naturally including exceptions? Who knows. But fetish moments are capable of the lived submission in spheres to raise, which can let you find each other even more and yours mutual bond will presumably strengthen even more. Please forget on best not to include the close-meshed exchange. Then you can good With a conscience and full of anticipation, the exciting and shimmering terrain of the play with feelings of shame and disgust.

Whether you would like to walk this path as a couple first or rather with the involvement of several people, is at your discretion and the freedom of choice of each of you. Consider the variation with several people involved, that there are unforeseen events can lead, which you did not see coming in advance. The pros and Again, to calmly weigh up your further course of action, to feel comfortable with the result of the analysis. A creed for all parties. Whether fetishists or BDSMers.

As with all practices and techniques of fetishism and The motto of BDSM also applies here: What my (playing) partner does not want and refuses will not take place. All other procedures would constitute a criminal offense. The acceptance of personal taboos is an essential part of respectful coexistence in addition. It's totally okay that you have it and an important part of what defines you, your submission and your fetishism.

We are not in a sporting competition, in which taboos are frowned upon and a sign of weakness. guide you please keep in mind: please and honor honesty and authenticity your counterpart and, as it were, yourself. This essential basis forms the basis of every interaction with feelings of shame and disgust also any other sexual agreement, of course also outside the world of BDSM and fetishism.

Free BDSM and fetishism without shame

Also, people change over the years and thus even within a common connection. What maybe at the beginning caused unpleasant feelings and was shameful and disgusting or taboo has been defined can change after five years of a relationship, after three months or even next week will be completely different. tendencies and agreements show how important a regular exchange of talks is, because such essential contents are not even expressed and thus forever set in stone.

No, they can and may change again. A spontaneous change of mood within a game situation can happen and is not to be equated with shame and fickleness. Some things are only experienced and processed in active doing and can theory cannot be fully grasped and assessed beforehand. raises in at such a moment no finger pointing at your counterpart or even gives him a guilty conscience.

Instead, praise the willingness to try and to agree Attempt.

Sometimes a situation perceived as uncomfortable be named some time later as exhilarating. Don't fuss unnecessarily and waste no time in sowing doubts, for they can in the worst case, smolder in secret and the climate among each other and after complaining or even poisoning.

Try to be truthful and relaxed with your pubic and Feelings of disgust and the associated taboos that may exist to deal with, then it will be really good. Promised!

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