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Frag Jessy: Was tun, wenn der Partner den eigenen Fetisch ablehnt?

Ask Jessy: What to do if your partner rejects your own fetish?

If your partner doesn't approve of your fetish, this can create a challenging situation in your relationship. It is important to understand that sexual preferences and fetishes are an extremely personal matter and are often not easy to talk about or expect understanding. In this detailed text, we will examine various aspects to help you deal with this complex situation and find possible solutions.

1. Communication is key

The first step if your partner doesn't approve of your fetish is to talk openly and honestly about your sexual preferences. Communication is the key to any successful relationship, and that applies here too. Make sure you speak in a calm and respectful tone and try to explain your point of view clearly. Tell your partner how important this aspect of your sex life is to you and that you want to feel comfortable and accepted in the relationship.

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2. Understanding of partner's feelings

It's important to put yourself in your partner's shoes and understand why he or she has difficulty with your fetish. Maybe your partner has prejudices, insecurities or fears about the topic. By seeking to understand and acknowledge these feelings, you show empathy and respect. Also encourage your partner to be open about their concerns and feelings.

3. Willingness to compromise

In a relationship it is often necessary to compromise. If your partner doesn't share your fetish, you can work together to find compromises that are acceptable to both of you. Maybe there are parts of your fetish that you can live out in your relationship without overwhelming your partner. The key is to find solutions together that are comfortable for both of you.

4. Consider professional help

Sometimes rejection of a fetish is deeper rooted and may indicate deeper emotional or psychological issues. In such cases, it may be helpful to seek professional help. A sex therapist or couples counselor can help you better understand and manage your sexual needs and your relationship.

5. Self-reflection

Take time for self-reflection to figure out how important your fetish is to you and what role it plays in your life. It may be that you overestimate your sexual preferences or that they are not as crucial to your relationship as you first thought. This can be an opportunity to think more clearly about your priorities and needs in your relationship.

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6. Find alternative ways to live out your fetish

If your partner absolutely doesn't want to share your fetish, you might consider alternative ways to meet your needs. This could mean getting involved in online communities filled with like-minded people, or engaging in fantasies and role-playing with your partner that are close to your fetish but enjoyable for both.

7. Patience and time

Sometimes it takes time for a partner's attitude toward a fetish to change or adapt. It's important to be patient and give your partner space to sort through their feelings and thoughts. Don't pressure him to change immediately or accept what you like. Give the relationship time to develop.

8. Look for commonalities

Even though your sexual preferences may differ, there are probably other aspects of your relationship that you can share. Look for similarities and activities that you both enjoy and focus on those. A strong emotional connection can help overcome sexual differences.

9. Accept that there are limits

Understand that there may be boundaries in a relationship that should not be crossed. If your partner cannot accept your fetish for moral or personal reasons, you must respect that. A relationship should be based on mutual respect and understanding.

10. Consider whether the relationship is fulfilling for you

In the end, you have to decide whether your relationship is fulfilling for you, despite the differences in your sexual preferences. If you feel like you're not getting your needs met and the relationship is making you unhappy, it might be time to think about the future of your relationship. It is important not to neglect your own needs and desires.

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Sexual preferences and fetishes are a personal matter and should be respected in a relationship. If your partner does not share or accept your fetish, this is a challenge that can be addressed with empathy, communication, and a willingness to compromise. Remember that there is no easy solution, and be willing to put time and effort into the relationship if it is important to you. However, in some cases it may be necessary to reconsider the relationship if it is making you unhappy or unfulfilled. Ultimately, it's important to respect your own needs and feelings and make the best decision for yourself and your future.

You can find more intensive advisory help here with Jessy, our life coach in matters of relationships, fetishes, eroticism, sex and partnerships.

If you are interested, write her a message: jessy@rubberfashion.de

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