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Blog: Sex oder Liebe? Seelenverbindung in der BDSM Partnerschaft

Blog: Sex or Love? Soul connection in the BDSM partnership

The Dom Sub relationship - toxic relationship or soul connection?

Situations of reorientation and reorientation can arise again and again in life come. A connection, an agreement ends for some reason Found. Whether emotional pain or relief, sadness or joy, the A wide variety of emotions need to be reflected upon after such an end and to process. I like to use the metaphor of one for myself Cupboard, which stands in a bright attic, filled with all sorts of different sized boxes. These boxes represent people, events and phases of life in a life, which are already a thing of the past.

One box might say “My school days” and the other might say “My school days.” “My first boyfriend”. And they are on other boxes previous experiences in the area of ​​submission. Ideally There are also lids on all the containers, because this is the only way These boxes have also been locked and left as is categorized. However, it could be more difficult if one of these... Boxes or even several boxes remain open in this closet of life. This fact shows that the incident probably already happened, but apparently not yet fully processed and filed away the “Past” section. So the breath of the contents of the open is enough Boxes into the present and can also color the future.

The more boxes are open, the more risk there may be Unprocessed things accumulate and a real arrival in the here and now prevented and unnecessarily drains life energy. Recurrently busy Conversely, your own world of thoughts changes with what has already been sometimes obscures or frustrates the view of what is important Perceiving new opportunities.

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So it may well be advisable to reflect on what has happened process it, draw personal conclusions from it and then the To assign the past and thus finally conclude it. Say, that Lift the lid on the box and close it. Especially when Recommends getting to know and meeting new people This is even more so because you develop trust and rely on someone Allowing yourself to be completely and without any ifs or buts is often the best thing to do with a free spirit and without the ghosts of ex-partners Tow. Therefore, it is of great importance to... to take enough time to get to know each other. But How much soul life do I reveal to the other person?

Now you can start the exciting risk of facing an unknown person To let people in and let them enter your own world. How quickly or slowly can the approach happen? It may matter in the process of approaching play what everyone's framework conditions within longs for this connection.

But does it really depend on the frame you are looking for? Will be there differentiated between a play relationship, a weekend affair or a 24/7 cohabitation?

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We're talking about BDSM here, about an intense approach to someone other people into your own, deep world of feelings. Even if the sexual one component should be in the foreground at a meeting and the mental one At the level that is less sought after, not everyone involved wants to be seen what he is like and what makes him special? Not everyone wants it BDSM practitioners are allowed to experience the feeling of this interaction happening with him and not over him?

Outside of any playful humiliation, roles would like to be taken and expectations are met? Or does every person want to be in their own feel addressed in the deepest darkness? Leads a previous human Encounter for unfiltered enjoyment? Toxic BDSM – Will he get through it? prevents careful and empathetic interaction?

This is where the wheat could be separated from the chaff. Because one of selfishness and Narcissism driven Dom and a self-absorbed and self-centered sub probably have little desire to question their actions. If the Submissive obedience is equated with silence. What was written succinctly seems can cause serious stress and self-esteem for sub sensitively diminish. At best, the submission should include all actors let it fly and imply a good and happy feeling. On Under no circumstances should BDSM cause real psychological pain, communicated forms of expression are excluded.

The willingness of my counterpart to be open to questions can be a factor Not only a sign of the integrity and sincerity of a counterpart be in the process of getting to know each other. Every person has their own pace, themselves to be able to approach and trust. And without building trust can probably no fulfilling and lasting BDSM will emerge. This pace should At best, communication should be courageous and open, because Sub and Dom stand this without restrictions. Now to the crucial question: Do you need a soul? Dom and sub together?

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I would answer this question in the affirmative. My feeling is of course subjective, shaped by life insights and individual experiences. Every person has his own opinion about what should be.

I would like to explain why, for me, there is soul in the encounter needs: Only if I allow soul can I be seen by my counterpart become. Then interaction with me as a person can happen before the sub comes to fruition in me. Every encounter can have its origin in get to know each other on equal terms, who hides behind sub and dom. If this person in all his Facets are perceived when this person is accepted and Acceptance finds when this person is allowed to be who they really are and can live what makes him completely happy, then sub and dom can each other truly unfold in full force.

My personal conclusion about the fulfilled submission

The way of getting to know each other happens first through the person, before each other Dedicated to Sub and Dom. Even if the facets as a unit It seems that very few people involved are exclusively sub and dom. We are all human too. Maybe we are parents too or working, maybe we have other commitments or different moods within us, outside the world of BDSM. Each of We are faced with a complex interplay of external and internal factors that made us become the person we are in the present are. Our own sexuality is just one of many facets that affect us turn off.

Isn't it wonderful, seen in all facets and, so to speak, from to be accepted by our counterpart, no matter in what context and how often is met? Or am I wrong about this? What do you all mean?

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